I have seen many families in my life — relatives, neighbours, students I once taught — all going through a similar struggle. A son or daughter, educated and well-settled, but marriage just doesn’t happen. Proposals come and go, alliances get fixed and break down, and time slips by.
In our younger days, we would quietly take such matters to an astrologer, or perform a simple puja at the nearby temple. These days, people try everything — matchmaking apps, matrimony websites, counselling — and when nothing works, they either lose hope or blame themselves.
But sometimes, the problem isn’t in our effort. It is in the unseen forces around us — the movements of planets, karmic influences, and energies we cannot measure with the eyes. Our ancestors knew this. That is why, even today, many temples quietly perform homas and pujas that are meant to help those facing marriage-related issues.
Let me share a few insights, not as a scholar, but as someone who has observed life, read our shastras, and listened to elders.
In many horoscopes, especially in girls past the age of 28 or 30, astrologers may find something called a dosha — most commonly Mangalik dosha. It is caused when the planet Mars sits in certain houses of the kundali. Now, don’t be alarmed by that word. It does not mean a person is cursed or unlucky. It simply means that the influence of Mars is strong — and this planet, when not pacified, may cause misunderstandings, delays, or sudden breakdowns in alliances.
In some cases, even when there is no dosha, the 7th house (related to marriage) may be weak, or the planet Venus may be poorly placed. These things may not be visible to the naked eye, but they influence how our relationships unfold.
I remember a friend’s daughter — she was kind, smart, and had a good job. But every time a proposal came, something would go wrong at the last minute. Her family was heartbroken. Later, an elderly priest suggested a Swayamvara Parvati homa, to be done with proper sankalpa. After the homa, there was a noticeable shift — not just outside, but in her own mindset. Within a few months, things started moving, and today she is married and peaceful.
Now, I am not saying that one puja will fix everything. But what I have learned is that when we do a dharmic act with shraddha, the doors that were closed begin to open — quietly, without drama.
There are other cases too. Sometimes, the problem is due to what we call Pitru dosha — when ancestors have not been properly honoured or remembered. In such families, it is seen that marriage, childbirth, or harmony often get delayed. This is not superstition. In our culture, we believe that those who gave us life must be honoured for life to move forward smoothly.
In these cases, a Pitru shanti puja, done with full devotion, often brings surprising results. I’ve seen it happen — in my own extended family.
In some rare situations, a person may carry emotional baggage from a previous life, or may be stuck in a pattern of doubt or indecision. These impressions, called samskaras, are deep. Even modern psychology is beginning to accept that some emotional blocks don’t start in this life alone.
For such deeper matters, our sages advised homas to Bhagwan Shiva and Devi Parvati together — like Uma Maheshwara homa. Not for show, not for rituals’ sake — but as a way to offer ourselves to the Divine and say, “I surrender. Please guide my path.”
Sometimes, the issue is not within, but around. I’ve known people whose marriages get delayed because of excessive jealousy, gossip, or negative drishti from those around them. Maybe a relative who secretly resents them. Maybe a friend who isn’t truly wishing well. In such cases, one can quietly chant the Hanuman Chalisa, offer lime garlands to Hanumanji, or request a Durga Shanti homa. These things are subtle, but the energy they clear is very real.
Now, in today’s busy world, not everyone has access to a purohit or temple where such rituals are done properly. That’s where JyotirGamaya comes in — they connect families with authentic temples and trained Vedic priests who perform such rituals with care, not haste. The pujas are done with full sankalpa, and families receive video proof and updates. More than anything, they get peace of mind, knowing that something sacred is being done for their child or themselves.
I’ve seen them conduct sevas like:
- Swayamvara Parvati Homa – to remove marriage obstacles blocks and invite a good life partner
- Mangalik Dosha Nivaran Puja – for those whose kundali shows Mars-related dosha
- Uma Maheshwara Homa – for healing of relationship pain or delays
- Pitru Dosh Puja – to honour ancestors and remove ancestral blocks
- Durga Shanti Homa – for protection from negative energies or interference
These aren’t done mechanically. The purohits take the names, gotras, and nakshatras of those involved. The puja is done in temples with devotion. No shortcuts.
Marriage is not just about the wedding day. It is about finding peace with a companion who walks with you through the ups and downs of life. If there are delays or struggles, don’t blame yourself. Don’t lose hope. Sometimes, the right time is just waiting for the right offering to the Divine.
As our ancestors said — “Shraddhavan labhate jnanam” — those with faith will always find the path.
